This question comes from Dear Prudence at Slate
Q. Relationships: For the last few years, I have been dating a wonderful man… BLAH BLAH BLAH…However, there’s one nagging issue I just can’t seem to let rest: My would-be husband sometimes browses the “casual encounters” section of a certain online classifieds site. I have confronted him about this, and he tells me this is like pornography for him, but titillating in a different way. I’ll confess, I’ve secretly scoured his e-mail addresses looking for evidence of infidelity, but he appears to be squeaky clean. He knows I disapprove and has apologized for betraying my trust. Half of me thinks it’s OK to look but not touch, while the other feels like he’s playing with fire. Should I set my worries aside and be thankful for this man’s many wonderful attributes, or is this a deal-breaker?
This is only a deal breaker if you don’t mind testing yourself for STDs constantly, don’t want to discover a drawer full of dildos, don’t want to stumble across videos of him fucking masked men and/or women and/or sheep. Seriously, wake the fuck up.